Arjun Som

11 Lessons We Can All Learn From Virat Kohli’s Life – On And Off The Field

Virat Kohli, a name that has been dominating the world of cricket, came into prominence after he successfully lead the Indian Under-19 team to a glorious World Cup win in 2008. Ever since then, he has been breaking records and setting new standards for himself. Arguably the best batsman we have right now, Kohli has made it a habit to hit centuries in almost all the games he plays. The constant developments in his professional and personal always manage to inspire millions of Indians who look up to him as a new-age role model. And while Kohli’s uninhibited nature has…Continue Reading

Why ‘feminism’; not ‘equalism’ or ‘egalitarianism’?

Feminism has become a word loaded with meanings, emotions and interpretations. While some proudly proclaim to be feminists, some oppose the idea outright, and many are conveniently silent and confused. (If you are unclear and need some clarity on what feminism is all about, here is a Ted talk I would recommend.) It is interesting to find that a majority of ‘anti-feminists’ seem to support equalism or egalitarianism. Many argue that if feminism strives for equality, why is it called “feminism” with “fem” at its root? Why not ‘Egalitarianism’ or ‘Equalism’ ? I feel it is a valid question and…Continue Reading

Dear Mom & Dad : I Know You Are Worried About My Choices, But Trust Me, I Will Be Fine

Dear Mom & Dad, I know, I am not choosing the safest of paths. I know, I am turning away opportunities which will never knock at my door again. I know, I will be criticized, questioned and misunderstood for the choices I make. I know, I will fail, not once but multiple times. I know, I will doubt myself at times; feel sad, confused and scared. I know, there is a lot to this journey than I could anticipate or comprehend now. But it is for these same reasons that I choose this path. I am not looking for safety…Continue Reading

The Walls You Have Built May Save You From A Heartbreak, But They Also Prevent You From Love

I understand you have fallen in love and gotten your heart broken. You are tired of giving your heart and soul to someone who can’t handle the depth and intensity with which you love, let alone reciprocate with the same intensity. You have loved, cared, and trusted someone who took you for granted. Someone who didn’t realize what he was losing as he walked away. Now that he has gone, you are left with yourself and the stories of your past. The stories that make you doubt if you could trust anyone ever again. You surely don’t want to repeat…Continue Reading

The Fear That’s Stopping You Has A Message To Deliver, Listen

Do not label your fear as negative, for it is not. It is one of the friends your parents asked you to stay away from. The friend with whom you never attempted a friendship, for the fear of getting influenced in the wrong way. The friend who you never listen to, but have judgments about. The friend you failed, even before you gained. You were too young back then to decide for yourself, but not anymore. Today you could see beyond the filters of right and wrong. You know where to draw boundaries. You know to take the lessons you…Continue Reading

Dear Friend, No Matter How Devastated You Feel, You Are Held

Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your fears, and all those unnameable emotions you are feeling right now, they are all here to serve you. They are here to bring you closer to yourself. They are here to guide you home. They are your friends. The friends who are least understood. They have shown the courage to confront you, for your good, despite all your resistance towards them. For once, listen to what they are here to convey. If you are worried that you will break, remember, it is the rigid that breaks. If you are worried that you won’t…Continue Reading

You Must Learn To Say ‘NO’ Before You Drain Yourself Out Completely

Saying NO has been a challenge for many of us. If you are someone who likes being liked or someone who put others before yourself. Someone who is way too sensitive to see others hurt. Someone who believes, saying NO is mean, or selfish. Someone who enjoys being the go-to person for your family and friends. You know what I am talking about. Even when you have more than what you could handle on your plate. Even when you are physically exhausted and emotionally drained. Even when you don’t want to get involved in what is asked of you; saying…Continue Reading

10 Things To Consider Before You Say “Yes” To A New Relationship

There are very few things in life that are as exciting as starting off a new relationship with a person you love. While it’s wonderful to feel loved, a relationship is much more than loving one another. It takes conscious efforts and nurturing to make a relationship work. To make it a fulfilling journey for both souls involved. Sometimes we lose sight of what is really important in a relationship because we think loving someone is the sole criterion for a successful relationship. Here are few things we feel need to be considered before saying ‘YES’ to a new relationship.…Continue Reading

Fighting In The Dark: Why It’s Important To Go On When You Don’t Know How

In a world where we are obsessed with power and control – with us trying to control almost everything, including things like death, which seemed impossible to control till a few years ago – one of the toughest things to encounter is the unknown. And almost all of us, no matter how at ease with uncertainty we seem to pretend to be. There will certainly be moments in our life when each of us would stand at the edge of our knowledge staring at the unknown. You would know for sure that you can’t take a step back, yet would…Continue Reading

I Am Learning To Embrace My Failures, And I Feel Confident Like Never Before

Failure was not a pleasant word during my growing up years. It still isn’t, but I am learning to embrace it. I am beginning to see that failure is not something to be ashamed of. It is not the end of the world. It doesn’t make me any less valuable as a human being. It doesn’t define my past or dictate my future. I am learning to stop creating stories and meanings out of my failures. To stop exaggerating my defeats and understating my strengths. To stop comparing myself with others and to stop feeling like I am not ‘good…Continue Reading