I Am Learning To Embrace My Failures, And I Feel Confident Like Never Before

Failure was not a pleasant word during my growing up years. It still isn’t, but I am learning to embrace it. I am beginning to see that failure is not something to be ashamed of. It is not the end of the world. It doesn’t make me any less valuable as a human being. It doesn’t define my past or dictate my future.


I am learning to stop creating stories and meanings out of my failures. To stop exaggerating my defeats and understating my strengths. To stop comparing myself with others and to stop feeling like I am not ‘good enough’. I am practicing not being so hard on myself.

I am beginning to see that failure has its beauty too. It has taught me some of the most valuable lessons in my life, which I know I wouldn’t have learnt otherwise. It has made me humble and more aware about my strengths and weaknesses. It has given me a sense of direction and focus too.

I now see that every failure, no matter how painful, has left behind something precious. And I now see how I needed them all. How they’ve saved me from wrong relationships, wrong career choices and situations.

‘Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.’ ~ Mary Oliver

I am learning to appreciate myself for my gifts, for my strength and for choosing not to quit, even when it was the easiest option available. I am beginning to feel proud of myself, of my journey and of my pitfalls.

I am beginning to see failure as a proud battle scar worn by a warrior who refused to give up, despite fear screaming into his ears. And it’s making me feel confident like never before. It’s making me feel unstoppable. I don’t know why it took me so long to see this, nevertheless I am happy.