Why You Don’t Need A Perfect Life Partner For A Perfect Ever After

“What’s your idea of love?”

I’ve been asking myself this question ever since I started gaining a little perspective on how love should be defined. I suppose, red roses, romantic gestures and a dreamy partner are some of the few things I had in mind. Thanks to media, social media and my own friends, my expectations of love were slightly different from what I feel now.

And I’m sure, a lot of people go through this transition when their belief is shaken and the bubble bursts.

It is only after a couple of heartbreaks that you realise what a roller-coaster love is. One moment you’re madly in love with someone and the next day, you can’t even stand to be with them in the same room. We experience it all the time, but little do we know that these instances are what keep us sane, and help us find the person we should actually be with.

There are a lot of people with whom we have a possibility to have a deeply fulfilling relationship. But when we look for perfection, we limit ourselves by looking for just…a short-term togetherness.

Maybe because we don’t want to be alone.

Image Source

The journey to love isn’t as smooth as you’d imagine. People make mistakes all the time and failed relationships become inevitable.

But when you meet the right person, you start collecting the missing pieces. You start finding love in the day-to-day moments and realise that your definition of this feeling – love – can be different from the rest. A person with flaws is truly capable of understanding their partner’s imperfections, and that’s how relationships should be, right? This simple rule of life stands out from the rest because it is the only one that makes you appreciate the things that truly matter. Whether you’re already in love or looking for it, you must always pay attention to the things that your partner is doing to make you smile. It might be something simple, but isn’t it exactly what you truly crave?

There are times when we meet seemingly flawless people – charming personalities who can sweep you off your feet. But it pays to remind yourself: are they really the ones meant for you? Then why is it that we go about seeking perfection?

Image Source

Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a week or a year, it will eventually hit a rough patch. These tough moments aren’t the times to quit, but the times to find out whether you need to take a step back or take a leap of faith. Funny as it may sound, investing in a relationship is a bit like gambling and you never quite know what the outcome is going to be. It is only after a deep introspection that you can realise that you need to stop chasing perfection and start falling in love!

So, instead of looking for a person who’s already perfect, wouldn’t it be better if we look for happiness from within?

Of course, it doesn’t mean that you need to go about falling in love with just about anyone you get attracted to. But it pays to look for a real connection. Once you find that, just be open to any kind of challenge life throws at you. Be vulnerable and be spontaneous. When you learn to love and respect your partner and their flaws, you’ll find just the right recipe you need to be happy in love.