Falling in love with yourself is a slow process. It takes understanding, it takes owning up to the person you are, and sometimes, it’s not pretty. But it all comes down to one thing: letting go. Realising that you don’t need to care about all those things anymore. And as you stop caring, as you learn that you’ll be okay no matter what, that’s when the real liberation begins.
Social media ‘likes’ and letting people know that you’re having fun.
All these things stop being as important as ACTUALLY having fun.
Negative baggage of the past, and the mistakes you struggled to forgive yourself for.
All of these become things you learn from, and move on.
The world’s perception of you and your singlehood.
Your own company takes priority over the people who judge you for ‘not having a life’.
The relationships you don’t have – like the ‘perfect man’ or the ‘love of your life’.
You instead start valuing the relationships you DO have instead of the ones you don’t.
The conventional career path everyone else may be taking.
You start making braver choices with your career, chasing fulfillment more than anything else.
The competition that exists only in our heads.
You stop comparing your life to someone else’s, realising that your journey is unique – it’s yours.
The consequences that come with you putting yourself first.
You understand that you will be judged for saying ‘no’, but you value yourself too much to care.
That tiny bit of belly fat.
You know you’re not perfect, but you’re slowly falling in love with all your imperfections.
The idea that you’re not the ‘best’.
You get better each day, and that’s all that matters.
The pressure to achieve those big life milestones.
You start appreciating the little joys of life way, way more.
The obstacles that stand in the way of your dreams.
You believe in yourself enough to know that you’ll always persevere.
The ‘popularity’ that comes with being liked by many people.
You’d rather be loved deeply by a few than change yourself to be liked by all.
FOMO – the fear of missing out!
You no longer want to experience everything for the sake of experiencing everything. You prioritise the things that make you happy, above all else.