13 Beautiful Things That Happen When You Stop Caring About What People Think

Most of us spend our years longing to fit in. Cutting bits of ourselves till we finally look beautiful to everyone but ourselves. Then, we grow up. We realize that changing ourselves for the world will only turn us into someone we no longer like, or recognize. More importantly, you realize that you never needed to fit in – that you are not a piece in someone else’s puzzle. And when that happens – when you finally stop worrying about being ‘good enough’ for someone else, that’s when life begins.

You take responsibility for your actions – you own up to yourself.

You stop playing the blame game because you’re finally unapologetic about yourself. You know that you, with your flaws and screw-ups, are beautiful.

You start being more honest with the world and yourself.

You start standing up for the things you want, for the dreams you have. You no longer feel the need to hide them, afraid of judgment. In short, you finally start chasing your own happiness.

You start valuing the life you have, instead of wanting someone else’s.

You stop comparing yourself- your journey to everyone else’s. You start finding pride in the life you’ve built for yourself – you see that even at its worst, your life is worthy of love.

You stop settling for anything less than you know you deserve.

You start valuing your own self, irrespective of what other people think. After all, you finally realize that the only opinion that really matters – is your opinion of yourself. So you stand up for yourself. Fighting for what you deserve, knowing that you’ll get it.

You know who matters and who doesn’t – which relationships are worth fighting for and which aren’t.

You start seeing the world around you, the people around you, more clearly. You realize that not every relationship is worth having, no matter how cute y’all look on social media. So you begin to value yourself and your time, more. You begin saying ‘no’, cutting people off even when it makes you uncomfortable.

You become braver, more resilient.

We’ve been conditioned to let the naysayers and the opinions of the world affect how we think of ourselves. But loving yourself, through it all? That’s the quietest, bravest, most peaceful revolution of them all.

You make things happen for yourself rather than waiting and wishing.

You realize that your life is yours. So you start living for yourself. You stop wasting time wondering what everyone else will think, trying to fit into their stereotypes and do the things you always wanted to instead of waiting to be saved. You stop being a passive character in your own story.

You become more open to advice, without letting it define you.

Just because you no longer need the validation of the world, doesn’t mean you’re removed from the world. You still ask for the opinions of those you love, letting it shape you, knowing that they mean well. But ultimately, you make your own decisions, defining yourself.

You no longer feel sad about not being where you thought you’d be.

You no longer lament about the things you thought you’d be doing in your 20s. You realize that there is no set blueprint to life, that plans and people change. So you embrace it all, without beating yourself up over the ‘what ifs’.

You find yourself admiring the person you were and loving the person you’re becoming.

You look at the things you’ve been through, the setbacks you’ve suffered, the mistakes you’ve made and learned from. You accept the things you’ve done, the things you’ve overcome. And then slowly, you start loving the person you can see yourself turning into – a stronger, happier, more independent being.

You learn to say ‘no’ even when it’s difficult.

The most difficult thing to do is turn someone down. To ignore the feeling that somehow, we owe it to the world to do whatever it asks of us. We start prioritising ourselves and our wants over everything else – realising that sometimes, self-love leaves you beautifully selfish.

Happiness stops being a ‘conditions apply’ thing.

You stop attaching yourself to the ‘if only’ type of thinking, or wherein your happiness is somehow linked to that dream job or dream boyfriend. You move on from the notion that only a certain section of society can be happy, and accept that happiness will find you when you least expect it.

You constantly strive for better – pushing yourself in the direction you want.

Remember this: the only thing all of us can really be is better. So you constantly push yourself, shaping the life you want. You do this without feeling ashamed of the person you are or the person you were. You realize that loving yourself doesn’t mean remaining stagnant – it means loving yourself in every form, for better or for worse.